Monday, January 23, 2012

Let's talk about blogging

I have been noticing more and more bloggers lately that post about some really personal opinions on certain matters. Things like breast feeding and politics. Things that as far as I'm concerned are not that fun to discuss. However... we want to be ourselves on our blogs. We want to attempt to stay true to who we are. Whether its a persona we created for your site, or if its the person you really are in real life, staying true themselves is a big thing for bloggers.

There are tons of different kinds of blogs. Fashion, lifestyle, interior design, food, personal, baby, mommy. The list goes on and on and on. So if I start a fashion blog and one day decide to interrupt my pretty dresses post with a post on American eating habits and how gross they are, what are you going to think? "Cool this chick has real thoughts". Or "mind your own business fashionista". Chances are, your reaction will be based on whether or not the blogger offended you in their opinionated post.

With that said. I don't really stir the pot here on TTS. Trust me, I've got plenty of opinions, and I air lots of them here when they feel applicable but most of the time if I don't like something, or disagree with something, I won't take to my blog to discuss it.

So I started to think. Why does it make me uncomfortable to see bloggers take to their blog to discuss not so pleasant topics? Well, I think its because 80% of my life is not all pretty rooms, exciting projects, playing with puppies and jetsetting with my bf. Most of it is invoicing, billing, fighting for deliveries, saving pennies to take a vacation and all those not so glamorous things that we ALL have behind our doors.

I know this is quite the random stream of consciousness but it really is silly for me to click away in disgust from some of these more opinionated posts. I am being ridiculous by avoiding the not-so-sparkly things in life.

So let me ask you the question I posed to myself. We all know you're here for the pretty (or at the very least, you're here to see me make fun of the not so pretty). So what do you think when bloggers take to their sites to get on their soap box about personal issues. Yay or nay?

**Disclaimer: YES... this post is exactly what I am complaining about. A personal, not so pretty issue, being discussed on a blog. But I'm just so darn curious.

Oh and PS, I even thought about adding some pictures to this post. See?? The non-pretty makes me cringe here. What is it?

60 comments:

  1. I've been a follower for a while, but never commented, but I'm glad you brought this up. I do follow a good number of blogs to look at pretty pictures and get lost in the glamour-filled life that is not mine. I do like to have elements of personalization inside the posts, whether it be pictures of your weekend, your home, etc. I think voicing your opinions on sensitive subjects is fine as long as you consider yourself to be educated enough to speak to and respect others opinions on the subject. It also matters how your opinion is phrased. If it's a totally biased opinion and only focuses on one person's experience (breastfeeding for example) then stay away...you may not be aware of personal challenges others have had with the experience or the guilt a mother may feel by not being able to breastfeed her child.

    I'll stop rambling and sum this up; talking about touchy subjects, in my opinion, is fine, as long as you can understand all sides and are ready to hear comments from readers that may feel the complete opposite that you do.

    Love your blog!!!! Keep it up!

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  2. You are not being ridiculous at all. I totally understand because I too like to look at pretty pictures to get my mind off how hard life is sometimes. Some opinions do bother me but others I am interested to read (never politics though much to my hubby's dismay). Anyways I take it all with a grain of salt and read what I am in the mood for the that day. Good for you for speaking your mind!

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  3. I totally agree with you! In fact, could not agree more. While everyone should stay true to themselves, I do not think a blog about interior design or fashion should be a platform to discuss the eating habits, nutrition of the public. It is completely unwarranted and lacks a place. This drives me insane. Thank you so much for bringing this up!

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  4. i like a mix of both! it makes everything seem a little more real..but to be honest i tend to focus on the positive and the pretty on my blog too bc i dont want to dwell on craptastic things that go on in my life but that doesnt mean they dont happen! i guess i save that stuff for twitter. xo

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  5. I need a combination. When I don't get a sense of a bloggers personality or they don't come across as genuine I usually let that blog fade out. I actually want to incorporate more of my personality into my blog. On the other hand, I love looking at the pretty. xo

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  6. I agree with Liz here, I'll read an opinion post if it's thought out and well-written, and if the criticism is mostly constructive as opposed to just being plain bitching (excuse the language)... But I totally agree with you that the complainy-types make me cringe to the highest degree! There's a way (or time and place) to convey opinions and I don't think a blog should be that place. Ultimately it says a lot about the author... And sometimes, it makes or breaks whether I'll follow a blog or not.

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  7. I say go for it! You have followers that love you for you designs, style, and also for your opinions. You have already defined your voice through TTS and your readers appreciate that voice. So I say show us the ugly, we will still think your site is all sparkly at the end of the day! xo

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  8. Thanks for bringing this up, Its so interesting to see different people's opinion on this. I feel like alot of people like to see these kinds of posts b/c it gives more of a peek into the personal life and feelings of the blogger, so they feel like they can relate more.
    I can't stand the complaining types of posts, or politics or things like that. But if someone is writing about how they discovered how badly they were eating and want to change it... I'll read it. I guess it really boils down to if they are just complaining, or sharing a part of their life that changed.
    And I totally agree about my life being not glamorous, so I love to look at blogs to get encouraged that their are beautiful things in the world :-)

    xoxo
    eileen

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  9. I like a balance, and I think it's okay to include real life stuff. I include the real life in my blog sometimes, but generally with a positive twist. I try to leave out the mundane, but at the same time include things that are more personal than just the sparkly and pretty. Sometimes I read through posts with a lot to them and sometimes I'm just in the mood for the sparkly and pretty, like one comment above me stated. It's kind of what I'm in the mood for that day. One of the things I think that does bother me is when someone who writes a fashion or lifestyle blog uses it as a platform to get across a message without considering things from multiple perspectives. It rarely happens, so I think you're pretty safe adding in more touches of "real life" and touchy stuff.

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  10. So happy you posted this. I agree with many of the readers above. A lot of blogging is about material things - vacations, awesome food, beautiful homes, expensive clothing and as fun as it is to talk about these things, sometimes we forget that the blogger behind those posts is just a real person with real life problems. Sometimes, not everyday, but sometimes... its nice to be reminded. It makes it a bit easier to relate to them I think.

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  11. I agree with Lara -- I think that we all get caught up in this fantasty (albeit beautiful world) that we blog in that we forget that these bloggers are real people. I don't want to read a blog that has heart pouring posts every day, but when I really like a blogger, I'm not going to care if she/he has a post that is a bit more "ballsy" then others.

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  12. I can relate to your post. I tend to click away when a blogger shares something I don't necessarily agree with or something that offends me. This is probably because my blog is very much a personal means of escape for me- a creative outlet where I can leave the unglamourous parts of myself behind and just post about pretty things. But there have been posts where I have shown a more vulnerable side to myself and gotten personal with an issue. At the end of the day, our blogs are an expression of ourselves. We should feel free to post about what is on our mind, however, we are risking offending others. I think that at the end of the day it is about balance, like meghan says above. If the theme of your blog is fashion, but you are posting about politics 90% of the time, then I would say you are not targeting the right audience. I am glad you brought this up, it's def interesting to hear other's opinions.

    XO,

    Sam
    www.ThePeakofTresChic.com

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  13. I'm torn. Some bloggers share way too much and it's borderline inappropriate, but at. The same time it's a public platform and that's the whole point of a personal blog. It's a touchy subject bc every blogger should have the freedom to share what they want. Xo

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  14. I think posting personal opinions is fine as long as a blogger goes about it the right way. As long as they post their opinion without being judgemental or denouncing others who may not share that opinion. I think it is important to voice your opinion that you feel strongly about. And I agree with the others that it gives us a better idea of the person behind the blog!

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  15. I think personal opinions are fine if its not too offensive & is in line with the blog's original purpose. I read blogs for a specific reason & if I wanted to read about people's say, political opinions, I'd go to a political blog. I think it just makes it a little awkward when its a bit out of the blue!

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  16. I'm like you - I don't really share too many off topic things (my blog is about dans le townhouse - in the townhouse - so I focus on the decorating, DIY projects and sometimes cooking that's happening in there). Today I mentioned my ongoing struggle with my weight, just because it pertained to my rearranging my closet to fit a treadmill in there. But, interestingly, when I casually mentioned I don't celebrate Christmas people REALLY wanted to know why. I'm not sure I share enough details for my readers. But it's about what I'm comfortable with too, I think.

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  17. I like when bloggers give me something to think about! It is all about how you come across...I don't like the "preachy" types. But I love your pretty posts and keep doing your thing!

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  18. I have a personal finance blog and sometimes I talk about shopping, etc. Sometimes I feel like blogs should only be for pretty stuff if that's what they're intended for... interior design- I just want to see interior design, tech- i just want to read about gadgets, the list goes on. I think if someone consistently blogs about a multitude of topics then yes it is perfectly fine, but when someone has a fashion blog and all of a sudden gets political, I am not sure if that's the right place for that.

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  19. Im obviously one of those people that inject the blog with my opinion every so often. Actually... maybe its not so much my opinion, as personal experiences... I don't think anyone gives a crap about my diet, but if I stumble across one that seems good, ill blog about it.

    I don't think anyone cares what I think about domestic violence, but when I saw someone getting beat up, I had to blog about it because it was life altering and I feel that other women could benefit from it...

    I do sometimes complain about waking up with my kids at night, being stretched too thin etc etc... but I think that I established the tone of the blog early on- casually written, personal-ish tone, so I don't think anyone is too shocked when I break out the more in depth posts...

    Bottom line, the blog is about my creative journey in a way...so I feel I can write about whatever I want. BUT I am VERY AWARE of how much of my life is exposed on the internet, like I WONT post pictures of my kids/husband etc... because, well, no one cares and its too much for me.

    I still maintain that my friends with active Facebook accounts regularly expose more of themselves than I do!

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  20. Great post, Alex. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on the matter. I'm in the middle, blog is an expression of our freedom of speech and I want people to be true to themselves. For me personally, my blog is my happy place and I would rather not interrupt or focus on things that disrupt that. You are exactly right, behind closed doors things aren't as sparkly as we may make them be and I think it was good you pointed that out. x

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  21. Oh I always like an honest moment or too. Blogs that are too sparkly or perfect just don't seem real to me. That being said, it totally depends on the purpose of a blog. If it's a personal blog, write about whatever floats your boat. As my blog ties to my business, I try to interject personality but keep boobs and politics out of it. Ultimately you have to write about what inspired you, and in turn, readers will decide if it inspires them too.

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  22. Great post and I agree people should be true to themselves, but for us, we see our blog as something people can sit down for a second away from their crazy day and read and just get takin away for a moment, or two, to not think about the stress, etc. and to just daydream and enjoy so we stay away from any politics/etc. But, I could see it being insightful on certain blogs if someone is really passionate and educated on the subject- but honestly, I wouldn't read it- I would rather watch the news, etc for those topics! xo Lisa

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  23. haha i'm totally with you.. i love that my blog is about things i find pretty and lovely. i don't think it's disingenuous, i think it's inspirational and uplifting! i think you can infuse honesty into your posts by how you communicate and you totally do that. there's so much negativity and criticism out there, i don't see why we need more of it!

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  25. Personally, I find my self subscribed to blogs that have a sense of personality. I like to think of blogging as being an author and if the author isn't well rounded. I get board. With twins, my relationship absolutely nothing in my life is perfect and to me do not like to "keep tune" to blogs that are.

    A lot of blogs hold an image to people that is completely obtainable. Yes still it maybe a beautiful image, inspiring! But, what kind of image am I being inspired to be; perfect?

    I like to read blogs that are un-obtainable. Your's is actually very balanced to me. Thats why I like reading it. You actually show your life, your personality. Some blogs don't even do that, or rarely. I don't read them, not because I dislike them. There not interesting to me.

    Good topic!

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  26. I think it all depends! I like hearing some of the real stuff from bloggers that I've grown to know! They have credibility and I want to learn more. But I can see how it can be off-putting when it becomes a regular thing or is jarring to the person you thought was behind the blog. I guess it really is all about balance.

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  27. it definitely depends on the type of blog- i love hearing the real voice of bloggers, rather than the "my life is sugar coated with rainbows and unicorns!" which seems so fake. i guess if you go to blogs to escape real life/as a stress reliever (not in a bad way!) then i get why people would be turned away from the ones that dig into deeper, serious issues. However if you follow a blog not only because of the fun things they post about, but also because you like/can relate to the blogger behind the posts, then you have to take the fluff and the serious posts, good and bad. That being said, i know for me when the blog overall becomes too serious, too whiny, etc i definitely take that one off my google reader since i have enough serious/whiny/etc in my life as it is!

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  28. It's funny I've thought the same thing...so I"m glad you posted it. There are many times I've thought...well I'm going to be real here, but then I thought I was being complainy. Do people really want to hear day in and day out about how exasperating it can be to be a working mom? Although I also think it's good to be true every once in a while (because the reality of life is that it isn't always full of glitter and sparkle and sales at J. Crew). There is so much more. Finding a good balance is key. But it's hard.

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  29. I'm very aware of why people read my blog, which is not for my opinions on politics or hot topics. However, some issues like body image and weight make their way in because they go hand in hand with fashion. I think that people appreciate a true glimpse into our lives, but they probably hear enough opinions from their own friends and Facebook timeline that mine are just annoying when they came to my site looking for wedding rehearsal dress ideas.

    That said, I don't really mind when people write about something important to them, but when they are unable to separate their own experience from it and consider how life is like for others, it makes me give less weight to their opinion on other things. Honestly, posts and comments that are clearly not genuine bother me a lot more than rants.

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  30. I think the special thing that separates blog inspiration from a magazine at the grocery store, is the clear voice that readers grow to know behind each post, so I enjoy actually blogs when they dig a little deeper into the voice of the blogger instead of just staying on the surface. I think it's important to show that you're a three dimensional person and not just a stylish robot, but there is also balance and consideration needed when you touch on hairy topics.

    good post!

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  31. I think there is a right and wrong way to do it. Pushing your opinions is definitely the wrong way (which I have seen done!). Pointing out what you feel, or opening a discussion is much better. Personally, I get enough opinion sharing/debate with friends and family so I tend to keep that off of my blog. However, I'm not opposed to reading about it!

    Great post. Food for thought :) I'm with you on having posts without pictures!

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  32. I couldn't agree more Alex! And thank you for posting this. I see where you're coming from because I too, like to look at inspiring interiors, pretty clothes and new products. It's an escape of sorts, just like reading celebrity gossip. As difficult as everyone's lives are, it's just not fun to read a negative post or a preachy blog. People don't like complainers. There's been countless times where I want to use my blog as a platform to rant about careless dog owners for instance, but that's not what my blog is about. At the end of the day, my favorite types of blogs are ones that inspire, show a bit of the bloggers personal life and are REAL. Keep up the good work!

    I love your blog and your design portfolio is fantastic!

    Amanda
    blog.twentyonetwo.ca

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  33. I completely agree - not really appropriate and I tend to skip them. If I want to hear about politics, current events or world views, I will read a newspaper.

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  34. What a great topic Alex! Personally, I like when bloggers dig a little deeper and/or show a not so sparkly side. It reminds me that they're real. Even my life appears great on my blog, but like you, 80 percent of it is dealing with the bs.

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  35. I like to see some opinions and personality on a blog, but just within reason. I see it as it's the bloggers' space, they can write what they want, I don't have to click on their site... But I tooootally get what you're saying about being way too much on a soap box on a controversial subject and not seemingly understanding other sides. Do I have opinions about breast feeding and politics? Yep, but in general don't see my blog as the place to talk about it.

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  36. I tend to agree with most of the people. Everything within reason.

    I've written maybe 3 or 4 posts about "real life" items - politics, an opinion, etc. But out of 200 posts, I think it's fairly reasonable.

    An opinion piece or a vent every once in a while makes a more complete personality. BUT there are definitely blogs I've considered to stop reading as it seems their "pretty" is a fake display over the melodrama of their non-dramatic life.

    It's like those people on facebook who always have the worst OR best day ever - I mean, really?

    My two cents. ;)

    <3
    aj

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  37. Well put, I blog/read fashion/design blogs as a brief daily escape from an otherwise stressful and corporate life. Same reason I really don't care to hear celebrities mouth off on issues either. Let's keep this part of the interwebs pretty!

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  38. Mmmmm, I don't know exactly how I stand on this but for example, I once was directed to another blog, and because her previous post was so personal, I liked it and started following her, because I could see there was more of her that everything she posted about, you know? Sometimes being a little bit personal makes you more human and as much as I like to read about fashion, design, and decor, is nice to get to know a little bit more about a blogger. I'm a really open minded girl, I've been in touch with so many cultures that I really respect other people's opinion, and it really depends on how you put yourself out, you can have a very strong opinion about something, but is the way you communicate it that can make a difference. I guess it all comes to understanding that we all have different opinions and we have to respect each other, that's it. (just don't tell me that you love Chavez, Venezuela's president) ;)

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  39. I have to agree with you. I mean I do like when people reveal themselves but using your blog as a soapbox? I'm really not interested in hearing the complaints. There's too much of that in every day life. Blogging takes up so much of my precious "me time" that I like to keep it as light as possible. It's an escape for me. Great topic! xoxo

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  40. I'm conflicted on this one. I see my blog as my spot to write whatever I want, but my "real life" is busy, serious, and sometimes boring. My blog is where I escape (i.e. I like to keep things lighthearted most of the time), but that's MY blog. I agree with others that people should be able to write what they want. I do get frustrated when I read really personal topics, but I can easily control that- by not visiting that person's site as often. I think topics such as breast feeding and politics are really personal- and quite controversial. That's not escaping reality for me; it's a slap in the face of reality.

    **Can I just say though that one thing that is really starting to erk me about blogging is the lack of original content?!? I have noticed multiple instances lately where a blogger will come up with a great, UNIQUE idea for a series and literally within a few weeks I see it copied- unabashedly. Now some of this could just be by chance, but I've seen it enough over the last few months that there's no way five bloggers came up with the same idea without having "borrowed" it. I've also reminded myself that all of us are confronted with thousands of images, phrases, and ideas each day that perhaps we copy without even realizing it. We see something, forget about it, and then the idea resurfaces at a later point without us realizing where it actually came from. That is a stretch in my mind though.

    Sorry I just bombarded your comment section with my random tangent. I just had to get that out. It's been bothering me, and my husband doesn't understand when I vent on this one. I'm feeling much better now. I'm going to have some wine now... :)

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  41. I'm glad I came across your post because I was thinking about posting on a subject that is a bit gloomy and not at all pretty or shiny and I wasn't sure if I should. I didn't want to bring anyones day down since my favorite thing about perusing blogs is seeing things that make my eyes light up in excitement, but it was a topic discussed at a panel I saw at the LA Art Show this past weekend that directly affects women and I thought maybe I should help the cause and spread awareness. I think I still will post, but I'll be sensitive to how I present the subject matter after all my blog is not set on the precedence of political and current events, but rather on style and life. I'm hoping that if I present the positive, which is spreading awareness instead solely touching on the bleak subject matter it won't seem as uncomfortable.

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  42. So glad you went with this post-it is really interesting to hear others' opinions on the matter. I, like others, do really like to know the blogger behind the blog. I like getting some info slowly through different posts, and I think if it's someone I've been following for quite some time, I will still absolutely read the post. I just wouldn't want to read it every day. I agree on the pictures though and how you wanted to put some in. The images are just so visually appealing and a lot of people are trying to find time to cram reading blogs into their busy, busy lives so it's not as practical to read paragraphs upon paragraphs.

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  43. I say write about whatever you want to write about, and if people want to read it they will. If they don't, they can come back later. Keeping it classy is also key.

    I have actually had a (relatively) similar post I've been wanting to write. Totally different topic but similar in that I wouldn't usually post it. We'll chat soon.

    And I'd love to get together soon as well!

    xoxo

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  44. Just keep doing what you do. You are fabulous.
    xoxo

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  45. I think when it comes to people's own blogs, they can write what they want-of course, it's their space, they "own" it. As a reader, I like when people post opinions, thoughts, etc. Most people are opinionated, so why hide it? I think it's great to write about " real" things, mixed with the sparkle! Personally though, I do feel that touchy subjects like religion and politics don't particularly belong on blogs that are mostly for lifestyle-y, pretty stuff. And that's just the same as I feel about the offline world- I would never go to a party and start going off about religion or politics (inevitably offending some/many), so why talk about those things on a blog? It's just too easy to offend someone. Thanks for bringing up this issue, it's a really good question.

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  46. I was just talking about this yesterday with my SIL yesterday. She's a blogger too so it wasn't weird at all that we were talking about this. But now I feel really weird that I just admitted talking about blog land... haha! Anyway, I blog to journal the life of me and the hubs. I realize certain people like reading about us, and others could care less. And that's just fine. Because there are people who use their blog to cry and whine about their life, or talk about money issues, or talk politics, or bash on people, and I could care less to read their blogs. So I don't. I think it's as simple as that. People can write about whatever they want, and it's up to us to choose if we want to read that blog or not.

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  47. I'm of the belief that bloggers should absolutely post about what they want, when they want...kind of the whole point. I also think, however, that when writing about a touchy subject, you should always remember that your thoughts are just opinions...it makes me crazy when people get on a soapbox about religion or politics and seemingly make it difficult for anyone else to have an opinion. For me, blogging is definitely an escape...one that should be real but also one that uplifts and makes people laugh- I don't write it to preach my views on more serious topics.

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  48. I'm totally accepting of style/design bloggers stating their opinion about non-style/design-related things and getting personal, and I actually like to learn something about the person behind the blog. I really do! HOWEVER, I do not appreciate being preached to. I almost don't care if the person says "This is just my opinion" a billion times if the overall tone of the post is still "this is why I think this AND why you HAVE TO agree with me." If you're talking about the same breastfeeding post that I'm thinking of, I definitely got the "you're entitled to your opinion, but if it's different from the one I'm presenting here, you're wrong" vibe, and I didn't care for it. Just my opinion, though! ;)

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  49. I feel that being consistent with your post style is important, that your readers know what they can expect from your blog (making it clear in the first/presentation:about me post)...don't make it a tutti fruity kind of blog...I blog about (and laugh at)certain life aspects that get me thinking and I analyze and vent and do some research all to write a complete, profound, well informed post (plus a mix of other stuff)...I've got a good number of readers which I know won't LOVE every single thing I write about, but that's OK we can blog surf just like we channel surf...there's just one thing that does bother me a bit, in fact I just unsubscribed because of it: there's this craft/decor blog that on certain days the author posts pictures of what she's wearing...that just boggles my mind, WHAT'S THAT ABOUT? any way, I exercised my right to skip the blog and now I've gone on to more consistent stuff

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  50. Great post Alex! I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts on this, and it's something I've thought about too. Like Naomi, my blog is mainly there to promote my business. That's not to say I can't ever be personal. Ht I try to keep it light, I see it as an extension of my brand, and I want my clients to come to me and hire me because of my stylistic viewpoint, not my personal viewpoints. I try to inject a bit of personality but I definitely keep it light. Think of it this way, if an editor at Elke Decor started reading your blog, would they want to read

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    1. Oops... Personal life details? So unfortunately ask yourself are you writing this to make friends or make money? Probably like me it's both, and I do believe there is a balance that can be struck!

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    2. p.s. sorry for the typos, iPad hazards!

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  51. OMG, so agree with you! I read design blogs to take my mind off the more "serious" topics of the day. I get a bit irritated with bloggers who "hijack" their blog (yes, it's their blog so they can do what they want), to talk about pregnancy, eating, major personal stuff like how they found God, etc. As a very spiritual person who has been pregnant 3 times, it's not that I don't like or understand these topics, it's just that if I wanted to read about that, I'd hit a prego blog or one about religion.
    Trish

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  52. I've realized that most readers like to read about the lives of bloggers and what goes on in in their everyday lives that is fun, happy, inspirational, and comical (like the time I wrote about spilling my green smoothie ALL over my kitchen). As a blogger you're entitled to have the freedom to write whatever you wish but if you want to have a following, you should probably stick to topics that won't offend your readers.

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  53. Personally there have been plenty of time I've wanted to rant and rave about the crazy stuff that happens. But I think as a blogger you need to keep it all in context. I visit blogs because I like the content/subject matter, and when I go there to get my daily fix of whatever I'd prefer to not see a post about something not related to their blog. Yes I get that big things happen and you want to write about it, I'm totally guilt of this (we're adopting a puppy and I might have dedicated a couple of blog posts to him, oops). But I think giving your readers consistency is important, and I don't want to get depressed by reading some one's blog :)

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  54. I think it really depends on the blogger. If they have a specific fashion or interior design blog say and one day they rant about organic cheese then yeah I might be like what is going on over there but at the same time try to remember that this is their blog so they can post whatever they want. In general if I enjoy a blogger I will usually read all of their posts whether I can relate to them or not. I will say though that there are a lot of blogs that have become polarizing on certain topics and I've had to stop following them because they aren't well thought out and almost offensive.

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  55. great thoughtful post, alex. i agree that when a blogger gets political out of nowhere, it's jarring and hard to accept. i do appreciate when bloggers share a bit more about themselves though, what they're really about beyond what they want to show us every day, just like you did here. :)

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  56. I love this post. I've often found myself thinking about the same thing. It's important to be authentic to yourself, but some people run the risk of offending others by speaking their mind too freely.

    I'll never forget a few years back when I was so offended by one of the super star bloggers out there. She made some comment about how people who had been laid off were lazy or weren't good enough to keep their jobs in the first place. Something along those lines. Well, I was one of those who was laid off when 60% of my company was let go back in 2008. It wasn't because I was lazy or because I didn't do a good job. I'll never forget reading that post, and here we are almost four years later. I was already devastated and then to read that was just so hurtful and really just showed her naiveté.

    And while I still read her every now and then, I always have a slightly bad taste in my mouth while doing so. I think she learned her lesson though because she followed up with no less than two apology posts. And not that I like revenge, but I thought it was interesting when she ended up getting laid off about a year later.

    You just never know who you're going to offend regardless of the topic, so people need to be careful.

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  57. I guess we all have our own jar of troubles but I really do not think that the blog is the proper forum or soap box. I much prefer to see the pretty and the glamourous. We cannot change people but we sure can inspire and influence in a creative way and a positive one too.
    I do love Simply Seleta and when she posts about the not so pretty, but she still makes things look simply sparkly.
    pve

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