Thursday, August 2, 2012

Disappointment

I was discussing blogging with someone yesterday and we started talking about having a genuine voice. It is really important for me to be a real person here on Things That Sparkle. I am not going to use this as a platform to discuss politics or religion but I want to keep it real. And today, disappointment is on my mind. Not fashion shows, or living rooms or the newest fall trends. So here it is.

Part of life is disappointment, but that doesn't mean I am good at dealing with it. I am not particularly competitive with other people, but competition with myself runs deep. So when I fail, or something disappointing happens, I hold a grudge against myself.

I don't let it ruin my day, but its in the back of my head. Starting a business has been filled with so many amazing, exciting moments, but let's be real, its also filled with some disappointments.

How do you get past life's disappointments? I am putting my energy into focusing on my successes and not my failures because at the end of the day positivity pays off. I know it does.

There are exciting things in my future. Both personally and professionally. It is easy to forget that those are the times that I will shine, because in the moment, disappointment is an easy feeling to get distracted by. 

So I am going to take this very wise man's advice



Today I am saying, success should be celebrated. This doesn't mean failure should be ignored, because its how we learn, but that's all it is. A learning experience.


25 comments:

  1. The deer head lover says that crap all the time when I'm crying over my failed caramel popcorn attempts. Who knew it was so damn easy to catch sugar...on fire? lol. But seriously, you are amazingly talented and have sooo many exciting things coming up! I think you should start the day with a glass of bubbly in your amazing kitchen, because you can! And while you're doing this you should still be in your PJs.

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  2. Could not agree with you more! I think I need to frame this quote as a daily reminder - sometimes life is going to suck but we work really hard and ultimately those amazing good days outweigh the bad. xo!

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  3. Aww, you are such a major success and have so many amazing things going for you. It's really true that we're our own harshest critics-- I set high standards for myself and when I 'fail' I obsess and analyze over it too much. Almost to the point of not being healthy. I'm not competitive with others, I would say I'm just competitive for myself. Try to keep your head up, you're fab!!!

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  4. Oh Alex we all feel this way. We all do it to ourselves. I'm wondering what's bothering you? I feel you rock the cashbar (yeah, that's the word i insert on that song b/c I have not idea what they say...).

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  5. aww its okay girl. we're all here for you! everyone gets the way but you know good always outweighs the bad :) you have an adorable blog and i am so excited to read more! you're a great writer! If you want to check out my blog I'm having a Giveaway going on! Feel free to check it out since it ends Friday! I can't wait to read more about your blog :) Happy Th!

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  6. you're preaching to the choir with this one, sista. no one can hurt you like you can, right? you have the right attitude. the fun part will be the moment that you suddenly realize it's all worth it. oxox

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  7. We all feel this way every once in a while, but we're here for you. Focus on the good and the bad will somehow fade away.

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  8. We all go through it!! It is just part of life and definitely something that makes us stronger and we learn from our disappointments. Love the quote you included! Keep your head up, you are AWESOME!!! :)

    XoXo,

    Dominique

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  9. So, so true- I feel like I'm in the middle of that quote at the moment but like you, know that the true successes come only after the disappointments:) Quite sure you're downs will only make the hugs ups that you have and will have, even that much better.

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  10. Such a great quote! I feel the same as you in my design business ventures. Some days are up, some are down. I think in the end it's just remembering that even though we're in a field we totally love, it is still a JOB. Which means dealing with the not-so-fun stuff, too. But why does it seem like all the bad things happen at the same time?!!

    Laura
    www.HappyroostBlog.com

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  11. Such an honest post Alex. Disappointment can be SO overbearing at times -- but it takes a strong person to stick it out and remember all the good things. Love you! xo

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  12. aw :( don't be disappointed! I'm very proud of you and all of your successes!!!

    http://itsthelittlethingsblog.blogspot.com/

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  13. I understand completely... and even wrote a post recently on how I deal with disappointment. http://goo.gl/NgFVh Hope today is a better day :)

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  14. This is a great reminder, but I think you have a wonderful attitude. Life always is going to have its ups and downs in everything you do, but it is definitely important to focus on the positives. :)

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  15. life is full of failures, but you can't be afraid to fail - that is when you will have your biggest successes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And keeping it real is what life is about - you can't let it stop you from dreaming.

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  16. Alex, I know exactly how you feel but I feel like mistakes or failures make you better. IF you can get through them and keep some kind of positive attitude, you are better and stronger for it. Life is def. full of disappointments and grief but it makes the positive things even better. Like Taylor said, I am proud of you! xoxoxo

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  17. thank you so much for being real! Sometimes it seems like other bloggers have so much more everything (money, style, perfect life, opportunities, etc) that it can get discouraging. It's good to remember we all experience the same things!

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  18. Bruce Jenner was just talking to Lamar Odom about this on the Kardashian's {sorry, I don't mean to bring the tone down, or anything!} But it's so true and so relevant to everyone. How successful we are definitely depends on our we react to failures and set backs. We can let them bring us down and maybe even quit or we can learn from them and keep on going! Thanks for the great post!

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  19. I know exactly what you mean, but try to not be so hard on yourself! I did a similar post not too long ago, http://everydaymusingsetm.blogspot.com/2012/07/mm-defeat.html. - eTm

    P.S. Thanks for being honest and keeping your posts authentic!

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  20. I've been feeling some disappointment lately too, and this post and that quote have really helped to give me some perspective. Thank you for your authentic voice and your positivity. You inspire us!

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  21. Funny thing how "failing" finds itself into life- right? But, what I find even more interesting, is what we do with the failures- not necessarily at the time inwhich the negative situation occurs- but more when SUCCESS occurs. To enjoy and appreciate that successful moment a littl more, as well as the journey it took to get there. To remember that there were failures prior to the success and the greatest feeling that we did not give in; instead we pushed harder because we knew success was out there to be achieved! Keep on taking risks- feeling the rewards- experiencing failures- and dancing with SUCCESS! Much admiration to you, Alex!

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  22. I really love this post because it's so relatable and we all deal with this. I find it is so easy to get caught up in the disappointments in life and forget the positive things. Life's disappointments are what get us through and push us harder and, if you let them, they can get you to where you are meant to be. The most important thing is that you keep putting yourself out there and keep trying. Too many times I find that I am so afraid of the failures and disappointments that I end up not taking action. I struggle with this a lot. So I think it's great that you are keeping positive- being positive is so powerful- and still putting yourself out there. You can learn the lesson from the disappointments, but then let them go and move on. As long as you got the lesson, the disappointment served it's purpose and there is no need to let it linger. Thanks for the honesty and keeping it real!

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